In 2010, I posted a gratitude per day on my blog. Last year, I tried to do it on Facebook, but couldn’t keep up. This year, several friends are participating in the Facebook meme of posting something they are thankful for as their status every day. The month is more than half over already and I haven’t jumped on that bandwagon! Since Thanksgiving is just a day away, I thought I would just write one blog post about being thankful.
Despite having lost my Dad a couple of weeks ago, there is a lot to be thankful for this year. First, I am extremely grateful for the care he received, both last year in Memphis and this past year in Delaware. The staff at Cadbury, particularly the nursing staff, was amazing, caring for his physical needs while treating him with the kindness and respect that he deserved.
I am thankful that I was able to see him as many times as I did this past year. The cost of travel, especially by air, can be quite prohibitive, but my mother made sure I was able to get there several times by paying for my tickets.
I am incredibly lucky to have a job that, first of all, allows me to have time off in the summer and secondly, offers family medical leave during the school year so that I can spend time with my parents when they need my assistance.
I am always grateful for my loving wife (I can say that for real, now!), who loved my dad almost as much as I did and who supported my need to spend time with him. She has been my shoulder to cry on when the grief threatens to overwhelm me.
I am thankful for my brother. Even though we don’t have a lot in common and rarely talk, we know we have each other’s back and that counts for a lot. I hope he knows how much I love him. I am also incredibly thankful that he met and married his wife. She has become one of my dearest friends – I can call her any time, day or night, and know that she will listen, offer advice when asked, keep my confidences if I need her to, and give generously of her time and talent.
I am also grateful for my students, who teach me something every day, if only how to be a better teacher. They are kind, smart, interesting, caring, amazing young women who will help shape our community and our world in the years to come.
I am thankful that I am making healthier choices (most of the time) when it comes to what I eat and the activities I participate in. Over the past year, I have made many positive changes and hope to continue in my journey towards fitness and health.
I am thankful that I have found a family of choice so far from my family of origin. Without relatives closer than 800 miles, it could be very lonely here in the south. But I have some wonderful friends who treat me like family and for whom I would do just about anything!
One of the best parts of this past year was the privilege I had of marrying the woman I love. I am extraordinarily grateful for the members of the LGBT community and all the allies who have fought for marriage equality over the years. Without their hard work, we would not have been able to legally declare our love and commitment. As it is, we still have work to do, but I am so thankful for the opportunity to be a part of history – I have faith that some day (soon), we will be able to look back and say we were there. And that the next generation will be able to look back and think “what was the big deal?”
As we head into the frantic holiday season, filled with TV ads, mailbox-filling catalogs, and incessant Christmas music from every conceivable corner of retail locations, I took a moment today to just sit. Sit in silence, looking out at the water in Lewes, DE, and contemplate all that I have to be grateful for. That includes you – my readers. Thanks for reading about my life here in this little corner of cyber space.